{Advice} Part 1: Announcing Your Engagement and Setting Your Date

Hello friendlies!

For those of you who missed my previous post, over the next two weeks I'll be sharing advice on planning a wedding via a series of ten posts based on an article I wrote a year ago (dork alert!).

But before I begin... Just to be clear - this series is not gospel; it is simply advice from one bride turned wedding planner based on her own experiences and seasoned with a little common sense.

That said, I hope it comes in handy!

Announcing Your Engagement

Whatever happens, make sure that you tell your family and close friends that you're engaged as soon as possible. You don't want them finding out via the grapevine - it could create tensions that are easily avoidable. The rest of your friends and acquaintances can find out via friends, Facebook, etc., there's no need to make a point of telling everyone you know  - people talk, so let them spread the word.

Setting Your Date

Before you can really start planning, you obviously need to know when you're planning for. Most couples choose their date either before or shortly after they announce their engagement. This isn't necessary, but I do suggest you do choose a date as soon as possible! This is something that you and your groom must jointly decide on.

If there is a particular time of year you enjoy, why not have your wedding then? Keep in mind that the most popular months for weddings in South Africa are October to December, and venues and service providers know it! So if you're trying to keep costs down, bear that in mind. Most venues have off-season specials, especially during the winter months when business is down. Also take into account that although Saturdays are traditionally used for weddings, they are the most expensive day  to get married. For this reason, Friday evening and Sunday weddings are becoming increasingly popular. If you are planning an outdoor ceremony, be considerate of the date you choose - if your date is in the rainy season, make provisions for a wet weather option.

Choosing your date should be something that bonds you, not divide you, so listen to each other's opinions and come to a compromise. Once you've reached consensus, maybe consider sending out "Save the Date" cards to those you intend to invite. To begin, give them only to family and close friends - you don't want to be hasty and give one to someone you may not want at your wedding in a year.

Don't miss tomorrow's post - Part 2: Your Guest List.